Posts Tagged ‘Spousal Surveillance’

My husband (Mike) and I appeared to have a pretty good life.  We lived in a nice neighborhood and had 2 kids.  We had our typical marital issues as everyone does, but it all came into question. 

My husband travels from time to time for his job.  He owns his own consulting business and works hard so I can stay home with the kids.  He was always very busy and would squeeze in time for our kids’ sports or other activities when he needed to, although he started becoming more and more disconnected.  I started feeling as though we were living separate lives and he when he was with us; he was not fully “present”. 

Finally, last month, I was supposed to take the kids for a few days to my parents. The timing was good since they were off of school for the summer.  They live about 75 miles away and the plan was to give Mike a chance to work late without worrying about what time he got home. 

He used to call us every night when we were apart.  This time we had to call him – and the first night, he didn’t answer at work, home or on his cell.  I just didn’t have a good feeling about it.  He called later from his cell and had some vague excuse about being with a client.  The day we left, though, he clearly said he did not have any plans in the evenings except just to get work done. 

Fast forward to when we got home, I noticed a couple of things didn’t seem right.  I could have sworn I smelled the scent of perfume on his clothes. 

If this sounds familiar and your suspicions of infidelity are driving you crazy, it is time to call AISG.  Advanced Investigative Services Group can help you find the evidence you need or can clear your suspicions.  You deserve to know the truth.

Not sure?  This checklist can help you look at your situation objectively: “How do you know if your spouse is being unfaithful?”  If you think you need to dig deeper, please call.  We know it’s a hard time for you – many of us have been there.  We handle these situations with sensitivity and compassion.

We all hear about the importance of having background checks done, but other than knowing it’s a requirement for certain jobs, many of us don’t follow through on a personal level.

One woman (Angie)  told us the story about a man she met through on-line dating.  On line dating can often lead many couples to a lifetime of happiness - although often just because they appear to be your perfect “match”, it does not mean the information they provided is truthful.  Let’s face it, there are some people out there who are quite comfortable misrepresenting themselves if it benefits them.  Angie found out the hard way what happens when you think with your heart rather than your head:

“I was on cloud 9 and thought that finally, it’s my turn to find love.  Jon was everything I dreamed of.  He was a gentleman, he had a good job and was stable.  He treated me like a princess.  We’d laugh and talk for hours.  After a while, things didn’t always add up.  I started to wonder how honest he was with me about things.  Something finally made me decide to do a background check, although it was too late.  I already fell in love with him. 

I couldn’t believe this actually happened to me.  I am a smart woman and I can’t believe I didn’t have a better idea that this guy seemed to lie about everything!  Thank God I did the background check and found out who he was before I agreed to marry him.  My heart is broken, but it could have been worse.  I am 27 years old and still have plenty of time to find love and happiness, but I guarantee I will never get involved in on-line dating unless I first do a thorough background check on someone I might want to get to know better.  It’s not that expensive and it’s worth every penny to know what/who you are getting!”

So many men and women want to be able to trust their hearts.  So many of us want to believe in destiny and can easily get caught up thinking on-line dating will be like the TV Commercials when life is like a fairy tale.  We do live in a world where people lie.  No one wants to believe this – especially someone who thinks they finally found the love of their life.  They often feel bad when they don’t just trust the person.  They don’t want to hurt feelings if their new love finds out. 

You must think of yourself first.  A background check on a potential “love” could even save your life.

We have all been exposed to infidelity at some point in our lives – either personally or through someone we know.  Often the first thought that comes to mind is “how did they find out?” or, “I would need to know”.  Truth is, it is getting easier to hide infidelity and unless someone was to continuously check their spouses’ emails, texts and call records AND follow them around wherever they go – - they have to rely on other ways to get answers.

Learning why and when infidelity often occurs can be helpful.  When does infidelity occur?  If you are suspicious, you can hire an investigator who specializes in Spousal Surveillance to help you learn the truth.  They can help you get reassurance or the truth through surveillance and other means.   If you are not sure, you can also check out “How to know if your spouse is committing adultery”.